I have been humbled by my own mediocrity, and I am determined to help others not to make the same mistake. So I have conducted a nonscientific review of how U.S. Olympic athletes meet their partners. By analyzing dozens of current and former American Olympians, I have narrowed down the best ways to meet an Olympian.
Good luck! I say this sincerely—you are really going to need it.
The best way to date an Olympian is to be an elite athlete.
I am horrified to inform you that the best way to ensure that you end up with an Olympian is to be a high-level athlete yourself. Ideally, you should actually be an Olympian. There are dozens of Olympic couples—think Megan Rapinoe and Sue Bird, or figure skater Kristi Yamaguchi and ice hockey player Bret Hadican, who met at the 1992 Olympics. Cyclists Laura and Jason Kenny, who are competing for Team Great Britain in Tokyo, have, between the two of them, enough gold to open a boutique jewelery store. And in the hottest situation imaginable, Gerek Meinhardt and Lee Kiefer are married Olympians on the American fencing team, and are also both in medical school. He already picked up a bronze in Tokyo, she won gold.
But if you aren’t up to the Olympic level, it’s absolutely fine to just be a professional athlete. Simone Biles’s boyfriend, Jonathan Owens, is an NFL player. Sprinter Allyson Felix’s husband, Kenneth Ferguson, used to run for the United States too. Alix Klineman, who just advanced to the women’s volleyball quarterfinals, is engaged to Teddy Purcell, a former NHL player. Jamaican sprinter Elaine Thompson is married to Derron Herrah, a pro runner turned coach.
Another way to date an Olympian is to meet them before they become an Olympian.
If you cannot walk for three blocks without pausing to take a little phone break, all not is lost. Eddy Alvarez stands out even among Olympians—he has a silver medal for speedskating in the Winter Olympics, and in Tokyo he’ll go for a Summer medal, this time in baseball. His wife, somewhat reassuringly, is a real estate agent. But they met in elementary school.
So yes, a nonathlete can meet an Olympian, but it’s best to start early. Champion surfer Carissa Moore is married to her high school sweetheart. Gymnast Mykayla Skinner, who took home a silver this week for the vault, was introduced to her husband through friends in college. Runner turned filmmaker Alexi Pappas, who ran for Greece at the 2016 Olympics, also met her husband in college. (They connected while dancing at a rap concert, which feels like it is moving in the right direction, in terms of physical requirements.)
After that things begin to become physically demanding again—two-time Tokyo gold medalist Bobby Finke is dating Ellie Zweifel, who swims for the University of Florida. And swimmer Caeleb Dressel, who picked up a casual five gold medals in Tokyo, met his wife on his high school swim team.
A third great way to date an Olympian is to be superlative in your field.
Perhaps you saw Team Great Britain diver Tom Daley, who looks like a Greek statue that has been animated by the gods, and thought, Who gets to be with that guy? The answer is Oscar-winning screenwriter Dustin Lance Black, who wrote Milk, the 2008 Harvey Milk biopic. Rugby player and champion Olympic TikTok maker Cody Melphy is married to influencer Payton Melphy.
Nick Wagman, who is representing the United States in dressage, told Out Sports that he met his husband through a series of events that included all of the above factors. Wagman’s now husband, Kurt Gering, appeared on The Real World (superlative in his field!), and Wagman was a viewer. One night Wagman was at a bar that was playing The Real World, and Gering walked in (met him before he was an Olympian). Also, Gering is a triathlete. It’s the perfect combination: Wagman and Gering have been together for more than 20 years.
So! The recipe for Olympic love is simple. The strongest situation you can create for yourself if you are determined to be with an Olympian: Change careers, take up an extreme sport, and trust that the universe will make it happen. Or, pay up the $9.99 per month for Tinder Passport and take your chances.
Jenny Singer is a staff writer for Glamour. You can follow her on Twitter.